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Originally Posted by Kevalin
Hey, Fawn,
I understand what you are going through. My brother suffers from bi-polar illness, and at one time, he decided he would no longer take his medication. We tried, like you, to get him to see what effect it was having, but like your brother, he wasn't willing to see. Finally, we had to just let him get to the place where he was miserable enough to make his own decision, even though it meant not seeing him for two full years.
You are absolutely right to get your brother out of your house and let him make (or not make) the moves he needs. You can't do anything else unless he indicates that he will be a danger to himself or others. I know that's hard, and there certainly are no guarantees that he'll ultimately do what he must to become functional...but know that YOU are doing exactly what you must. You can't be useful to others if you're stressed to the point of being ill.
My prayers are with you and you bro...I know this is hard.
Blessings m'dear,
Kevalin
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Thank you Kevalin so much for the perfectly worded comment.
I know you have some sense of this hard choice I had to make.
In July I had to throw him out.
I believe he was going to kill me.
His thoughts were very bipolar and irrational.
He applied for one job while he was here.
A trucking company to house him, educate him and employ him.
They never called back. I had to buy him smokes to keep the contention to a minimum.
He used my cell phone to the tune of 400.00.
my electric wow. stay up all night.
He would not see a doctor. Had to tell him to shower.
He was using my spare room, which I need access to in order to let my to dogs out.
he was upset that I woke him for that.
He would sleep all day an eat in the bedroom.
He never spoke to my husband unless I pressed him to eat with us.
He told me the woman he was married to, gave him everything, and expected nothing from him, was a B%#$
because she couldn’t find time between a 14 hour day as an executive to play video games with him.
My Brother has hit me before and knocked me out ,
so I could see this getting worse.
I told him to leave early.
My husband needed his home back.
after he left , his friend told me that he was very tiered of me being the boss and he was about to put an end to it.
wow .
I have my home back and he needs to make a choice.
Some people cant do for themselves and he is sick.
I know he is in GA now somewhere so Im glad of that. My 76 year old neighbor was frightened of him. he never left the house. never even saw my front yard.
Before he left , he told me, I never gave him a chance and distrusted him from the beginning and as he left the house .
he said goodbye to my husband and never even looked at me.
awful.
I’m so glad its over for me but his journey is not over.
Thank you for being so kind
Fawn