How do you ask out girls?

[turtleguy101]

Just wondering what everyone's preferred method of asking out girls is? How do u do it? where? what do you say?

For me personally, i wait until i know for a fact the girl likes me back. Then i ask her to the movies and usually do the whole arm gig which usually works... then i ask after the movie if she will go out with me....

[CaffeineCrave]

lol.. movies.
Well its been a while but what I usually did was just had a conversation with her and then by the end of the conversation if it is going good I ask her out. Usually I am likable person so they say yes. Then I just do whatever I think would be fun to do together .
Not very interesting but it has worked for me.

[seeds_of_poison]

I avoid the movies, It gives the wrong expression, and I'd rather be talkin to her (since its our first date). A nice lunch perhaps. Preferred pick ups include "I see you're human too, lets eat."

[Swordfish]

SOP has nailed it. Dont go to the movies on the first date, its too open and you cant talk and be open. When you ask her out tho, tell her youd love nothing more, or youd be honored, something extremely out of the way and very flattering, that you want nothing more than for her to be your gf. And I garuntee that if you give her a carnation (DONT USE A ROSE), shell fall for it right there. Look her in the eyes tho when you do it.

[CaffeineCrave]

Alright, I dunno about you but I have given a girl a flower before when trying to go out with her and it back fired bad. I gave it too her and asked her out, she called me a weirdo and said that no one does that stupid flower gig anymore (ya I kid you not).
So I don't recommend the flower lol.

[turtleguy101]

i think a flower is a good idea... idk if she likes flowers as much as some girls do... but wow caffeinecrave thats kinda harsh of her... most girls love flowers but i suppose there are some that dont

[xhuga2]

Be original, avoid clichés, be confident – Girls really love confident guys it is nature, Look into her eyes when you pop the question – if the girl is smart she can tell from your eyes if you are serious, if you mean it. Listen to her body language, her lips may be saying one thing, her body would be saying another. Take her to favorite place, how do you know, just ask her. Otherwise plan some activities that you and her can do together, something that is fun not too challenging for a girl, something that would need your assistance and might easily end up in a romantic thing. Don’t be in a hurry to pop the question go with instinct and confidence, just like a lion, watch your prey meaning study her and the day she is weak or showing great lust towards you, you pounce. She might say give her some time to think usually it means she wants to say yes but she has consult her females friends, so it means if you are good with her friends you are gone. Advice don't spend too much otherwise when you are in the relationship and you don't spend like used too it might be a problem. Good Luck.

[AdamBomb]

The hardest thing is just getting up the balls to come out of the blue with the question. So I don't do it.

I would prefer havening some regular conversation initially. "Don't act like you want her attention, you can use the " OMG you ___ also? wow I thought I was the only dork in the room, but you certainty out shine me." Not exactly what to say but it is a great for cold introductions, the 'Over heard' trick.

Find some interest you both share beyond the Over Heard opener, this is hard depending on age.
Computers is a good one, when I find a girl that knows something about computers I can't contain myself. This is also why we have to be real with ourself because if we lie just to seek approval we ruin the real sexual drive and the ability to relate to the 'object of our affection' is severely tarnished.

So if you have some good "Foot work down". The object of our affection should be a warm person in a crowded place.

Now we need to strike while the iron is hot, and because he have been honest and real, we already know we have it in the bag. Just use a "We should spend more time to together".

Never give an explanation for why you like her, if you say you like her and you get "Why?" Just start with the I don't know I just do, their is no hand book on life, I am just living it.

Their is a lot of physical mannerisms I would ultimately perform. But I don't think It is worth explain at such a young age.

And, If you can't hear her, just give her a I can't hear you look and do not stick your head in her face, and vise versa 'head in face'. The less you move the better, we all do nervous things with out thinking, to combat the common "fit of nervousness" ill take my glasses off only once in a conversation and make a routine and calculated attempt at cleaning them.

As far as picking up a random girl, I can't help you, I don't even attempt it.

[tiggrrrrr43]

well for me it's ask her out, she says no and then slaps me no not really :p i have actually in my 44 years never asked a girl/woman out! All the girls i dated asked me but that hasn't happened in many years i'm too chicken to ask
best of luck turtleguy

[CaffeineCrave]

Wow tiggrr, shy much? lol
If you don't mind me asking, are you a virgin tig?

Alrighty, I have something I want you to do. First off get like 50 bucks you are willing to throw away. Then go to the local dinner and try to find a women that you are attracted to eating alone. Then just go sit down with here, smile at her and say "so you having fun sitting here all by your lonesome? I thought I would give you the pleasure of my company." You must do it! lol
You are getting a little older so you have to ask a girl out before you are classified as "that old creepy dude". If you need an ice breaker if the conversation dies down... tell a joke. A good one is, "did you know that 93% of all women mastrobate in the shower, the other 7% sing. Do you know what they sing?" they will say no or try and guess... and if they say no you say, "oh you don't know? you must be one of the ones that mastrobate.".

Alright, so you don't have to do it, but I think you should.